By Wasim Kakroo
Emotions are an integral part of the human experience. They shape our perceptions, decisions, and interactions with the world around us. However, our ability to understand and manage emotions can vary widely from person to person. In this article, we will delve into the concept of expecting emotions as they are, and recognizing how our emotional difficulties are often rooted in past belief systems. We will also explore the idea how healing the subconscious mind is a time-consuming and challenging process.
1. Expecting Emotions as They Are:
Emotions are not inherently good or bad; they simply are. To establish a better connection with our emotions, it is crucial to accept them as they come. This involves:
a. Embracing Emotional Authenticity:
Embracing emotional authenticity is a powerful journey towards self-awareness and personal growth. It begins with the fundamental understanding that emotions are an integral part of the human experience. They are not something to be feared or suppressed but rather welcomed as messengers of our inner world.
When we acknowledge and accept our emotions without judgment, we create a safe space within ourselves to explore and express our true feelings. This process allows us to connect more deeply with ourselves and others, as we become genuine and transparent in our interactions. Emotional authenticity promotes honest communication, strengthening the bonds we share with those around us.
Moreover, embracing emotional authenticity encourages resilience and emotional intelligence. It enables us to navigate life’s challenges with grace and adaptability, as we are in tune with our emotional compass. Instead of reacting impulsively, we respond thoughtfully to situations, making decisions aligned with our values and needs.
b. Challenging Emotional Stigmas
Society frequently imposes unjust stigmas on specific emotions, branding them as “negative”, “weak” or “undesirable.” These societal judgments can deeply impact individuals, hindering their ability to forge genuine emotional connections. However, it is imperative that we collectively strive to dismantle these stigmas to cultivate healthier emotional relationships.
Embracing vulnerability is a fundamental aspect of this journey. Often misconstrued as fragility, vulnerability is, in fact, a courageous act of authenticity. It involves acknowledging and expressing our true feelings, fears, and insecurities, fostering profound connections with others who can relate to our humanness. By accepting vulnerability, we break free from the suffocating grip of societal expectations and create spaces where genuine emotions can flourish.
Furthermore, we must recognize that all emotions, even those deemed “negative,” are integral to the human experience. Feelings like sadness, anger, and fear provide valuable insights into our inner worlds, prompting personal growth and resilience. Instead of shunning these emotions, we should encourage their healthy expression and exploration.
2. The Role of Past Belief Systems
Our emotions are heavily influenced by our past belief systems, upbringing, and experiences. To better understand and connect with our emotions, we must:
a. Identifying Emotional Triggers
Our emotional responses often stem from a complex web of past traumas, experiences, and learned beliefs. These triggers, deeply rooted in our subconscious, hold the key to unraveling the mysteries of our emotional reactions. By identifying these triggers, we embark on a profound journey of self-discovery and self-awareness. It allows us to comprehend the origins of our feelings in specific situations, shedding light on the hidden corners of our psyche. Armed with this knowledge, we gain the power to reshape our responses, heal old wounds, and break free from the shackles of our past, paving the way for healthier and more authentic emotional experiences.
b. Unearthing Core Beliefs
Core beliefs serve as the fundamental building blocks of our psyche, shaping how we perceive ourselves, interact with others, and interpret the world around us. These convictions take root during our formative years, etched into our minds through a complex interplay of experiences and influences. By courageously exploring these deep-seated beliefs, we gain profound insights into the origins of our emotions and behaviors. This introspection allows us to unravel the intricate web of our thoughts, feelings, and reactions. Armed with this newfound awareness, we can embark on a transformative journey, challenging and reshaping our core beliefs to foster personal growth, emotional resilience, and a more harmonious connection with ourselves and the world.
3. The Time-Consuming and Challenging Process of Healing the Subconscious:
Healing the subconscious mind is a complex journey that requires time and effort. It involves:
a. Self-Reflection and Awareness
Recognizing our subconscious patterns and beliefs forms the bedrock of personal healing and growth. This pivotal journey begins with introspection, a deep dive into the recesses of our mind. It necessitates a willingness to unearth buried thoughts and emotions, shedding light on the hidden forces that steer our actions and decisions. Journaling becomes a trusted companion, enabling us to document our discoveries and emotions, fostering clarity and self-compassion. Therapy through professional guidance or support networks, offers invaluable insights, providing a safe space for exploration and transformation. Incorporating various self-awareness practices, we forge a profound connection with our inner selves, paving the way for profound healing and personal evolution.
b. Reconditioning Negative Beliefs:
Identifying negative or limiting beliefs is the first step towards personal growth and mental well-being. Once these beliefs are recognized, the crucial journey of reconditioning the subconscious mind begins. This transformational process encompasses a variety of therapeutic techniques, each tailored to individual needs. Positive affirmations serve as a daily mantra, reinforcing positivity and self-worth. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) aids in reshaping thought patterns and behaviors. Psychodynamic psychotherapy delves into the roots of these beliefs, uncovering deep-seated issues. Narrative therapy empowers individuals to rewrite their life stories, while trauma-focused therapy and emotion-focused therapy address specific challenges. Through these diverse approaches, individuals can liberate their minds from self-imposed limitations, paving the way for a more fulfilling and resilient life.
c. Consistency and Patience:
Healing the subconscious mind is a profound journey that demands dedication and persistence. It is not a swift remedy; rather, it necessitates continuous conscientiousness and unwavering patience. Progress within the depths of the subconscious may unfold gradually, akin to the gentle unfurling of a delicate flower, but this measured pace should not deter one’s commitment to the process. Instead, it underscores the importance of maintaining steadfastness. With time, as the layers of the subconscious are unveiled, one can unearth deep-seated beliefs, traumas, and patterns, bringing about profound transformation and emotional liberation. In embracing this enduring path, true healing and self-discovery emerge as the ultimate rewards.
- The author is a licensed clinical psychologist (alumni of Govt. Medical College Srinagar) and works as a Child, Adolescent and Family therapist at Centre for Mental Health Services (CMHS) at Rambagh Srinagar. He can be reached at 8825067196
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