THE unprecedented crises of Covid-19 pandemic has affected every facet of life. Since the last fifteen months, we have been through hell and back.The scourge of pandemic has not petered out yet.The raging viruses are causing unthinkable damage and unrest . We are hemmed in cornered and clueless.It has rapped on our knuckles and shattered our well-being.It has trapped us in a mire of colossal economical losses and manifold emotional setbacks.
We are still in a quandary and socially disintegrated.Our interactions have not been fairly free and easy. We are going through searing pain, cannot slur the facts and ignore the destruction caused by the Covid-19.
However, what cannot be cured must be endured. We should not stop finding and seeing the brighter side of life. The show must go on even if with new normals. One such change that we’re learning to grow accustomed to is the dramatic change that covid-19 has brought in soliciting marriages.
There has been so much extravagance in marriages that it has left the poor in tatters.When it comes to the marriages, we go to any extent to hog the limelight.We act as though we cannot afford to be a little less than anyone else.We wallow in false glory and exaggerate without having an iota of shame.Due to our ignorance and indifference,this sacred blessing has become a burden for the people who fall in debt/death trap even after splurging their lifetime savings.
Most of us are obnoxious trend setters .More than a divine affair we have made it very hard for the poor people and exacerbated their sufferings.We have failed to bring any transformation for respite to the people who are bearing the brunt of unethical customs.
Now, it is not only about scrumptious Wazwan platters and expensive dowry items, but the dregs of society have created such a hype by their devious ways, that the weddings seem incomplete and uncomplimentary without availing the services of Instagram fame,make up artists, mehendi designers, decorators and drone shooting also has to be in the must-have-list.
One paradox in the pandemic has been a blessing in disguise for those who could not afford to make marriages look larger than life affairs.It seems as if Allah SWT has cracked the whip and set things in the right direction.
However, since the last two years, many youngsters are leading from the forefront to curb this menace of lavish weddings.They are setting the right precedence and choosing a graceful cup of Kehwa over a gluttonous meal to seal and celebrate Nikah.
We should abstain from this extravagance and copycat syndrome which most of the people cannot afford.We need to call a spade a spade and hold people who indulge in an ostentatious display of wealth responsible.We have to introspect and do what is expected from us to be done in line with the Islamic teachings.Let's facilitate and solemnize marriages in a simple and sacred way.
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