A person gets appalled and dismayed when totally unlikely things take place in the society. There are certain incidents which are sufficient to shake our conscience, moral sense and humanity. Bandipora brutal rape case is one among them.
People in the Kashmir valley are in deep shock, sorrow and anger, as a 3 year old girl has become prey of a pedophile. The reaction is genuine and on expected lines. People are protesting in the north, south and centre. All in unison are chanting one slogan, ‘justice for the victim’. Notwithstanding all this, I fail to understand why some people are pelting stones on security establishments and indulging in violent acts. Why is state – the only entity against which we vent our anger or frustration every time, when anything happens in our society? The beast, savage and culprit is produced by us and is among us. We need to talk about our society, culture, ethos and values collectively. More importantly, we need to correct ourselves, what went wrong and where?
The rape is a crime of passion and lust. In the era of globalisation where we live in a global village, we grasp things from different places. Commodifying and objectifying womens body, exposure to nudity, item songs, pornography and erotic content are among the other main factors responsible for such heinous incidents. A person is exposed to vulgar, unethical and immoral content from a very tender age these days. These very things shape the brain of a person. There is a saying; a person is what he reads, what he watches, and what he engages in.
Lets be honest. Our society, culture, ethos and values have changed. It is the talk of the day that parents have no control over their children. The parents give absolute liberty to their children. The unfortunate part is that parents and families are lagging behind in keeping pace with the changing realities of this complex world. They perhaps are not interested or are shying away from teaching a child from tender age about gender, sex, good touch, bad touch and sex education. In these circumstances, how can one expect the development of personality and humanness in a person when he or she grows up as an adult. When a parent and family leaves a child on his/her own, without teaching morals, ethics, fear of God among other things, child is surely to develop qualities of savagery, barbarity, ill-mentality among other things as a grown up.
We are living in an era where there is a concept among some of the parents that they procure children, invest in them whatever they have earned in life and get profit in return like a property or material. Shaping personality of a child has taken a back seat. Where materialism is order of the day, morality, ethics, sanity, fear of God become casualty. Therefore, the society as whole it is apparent is shrugging off its responsibility from inculcating humanness and values in future generations. We must stop producing rapists at first place. Let’s take the preemptive measures. Prescribing deterrent laws like capital punishment come later. It is time to rebuild our society on same lines of our cherished culture, ethos and values, where it becomes better place to live in.