Late marriages are one of the most crucial issues. It is posing a serious threat to the society. Rightly said, that marriages are settled in heaven and celebrated on earth. We must accept that marriages are a pious part of life. The world is surviving and sustaining and the life goes on from one generation to next generation due to the biological mixing of a husband and wife. It is through marriages we see this world dwelled by some beautiful characters in the form of fathers, mothers, brothers, sisters, sons, daughters, grandfathers, grandmothers, friends, and relatives, neighbors, etc. Even this society has critique and foes for us who make us strong and give us some of the best learning in life. All of the beautiful characters have an important role in life.
The world of sciences and religions both thrust deeply on the timely marriages. When we are young, our minds find easy to adapt and sustain. As we grow old, it tends to become more firm in decision making process, thus leaving little opportunities for couples to compromise on situations. When the marriages take place on time, it has more benefits and ensures our good health, prosperity and a better future for us. Conversely, late marriages with exceptions have chances to put our life in stress. There is not a sole factor for late marriages. Rather many factors account for this crisis situation.
The menace of dowry and being lavish to celebrate marriages has entirely gripped our society and defeated us most. Adding fuel to the fire and making life tough for the poor, a new breed of humans have started attaching money and gold to gift cards, invitation cards etc. The height is you will be greeted with gold on marriage occasions nowadays. You may also find gold served with the meals. Ah! It seems a new meal added to the menu chart. There is no dearth of glitz of glam in our society. Theres always an attempt to make marriages a unique affair but puts an equal pressure on the poor and large section of the society.
The poor father of a bride either earns for years long or takes a debt to cover the huge marriage expanses. Narrating one of the experiences some years back here in Gwalior, I was passing through a street dwelled by some poor families. The street was blocked with a huge tent around and it looked to me more of an exhibition. I could find a scooty, a T.V set, sofas, bed, cooler and a huge collection of steel utensils. To my surprise, I came to know that it was a marriage celebration. Another surprise here, one of my friends namely Monu told me that he is pursuing his studies just to get a good hike in dowry. It is heart wrenching to see how one poor fathers sweat (money earned with hard efforts) goes in vain and in no time. Our sisters also face the wrath and tortures due to the unjustified demand of dowry.
The good and royal families can truly make a difference. We have good examples now from wealthy families who have set standards in the form of simple marriages and attempted to curb this menace. Lets not forget that if we offer worlds best meals in marriage, still we will find a critique for our show. It is our good intentions that matter most than showcasing our wealth and fame. There is only one power as supreme in this world and it is Allahs grace. Lets be sober and simple in marriages and not cross the limits so that it turns ugly for those who are poor and have limited resources.
Not only late but early marriages too can be devastating. Researchers find that the girls who are married early are more likely to be abused physically and emotionally. Early marriages deprive our boys and girls of their rich childhood. They are put to extreme stress of domestic responsibility rather than playing with friends and dreaming about a rich career.
Our cultures and societal norms make marriages tougher and tougher. However, we have given a free will to indecencies in society. Our parents must have the courage to decide and dictate for simple marriages. My Nikkah was performed in a mosque when my own father and my father in law decided it there on the directions of a good religious scholar. It was a simple one when only few Kilograms of Dates were distributed on the occasion. I was already engaged and my close ones wanted it big on a Nikkah ceremony. My wife gave her consent through a telephonic call. Our families got to know only when we reached back home from the mosque. We faced little angriness but it was just a matter of time that everyone accepted the good deed. I have also witnessed many of my good friends marrying late for good settlement in life. But what is good settlement in life is a big question? The perception is that a govt. job is a great job and makes life rich and secure. Lets not forget that the world itself is temporary. Besides the govt. have no jobs to offer and we must accept this as a bitter truth. Why not develop faith and belief in Allah and in our own potential? Lets be happy with what we have and never stop progressing. Lets strive hard and smart and believe in our destiny. Lets not delay marriages and accept that timely marriages lead to a good life ahead. Lets be sober and simple in marriages. Lets not promote the glitz and glam in marriages. Lets say no to early marriages and give birth to a peaceful and caring society.
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