Love, An Affair Of Frustration

People live with thousand dreams and hopes in their eyes and in hearts . Many among these dreams and hopes come crashing down to earth at the time of encounter with reality. Some just hang on to meet the expectations from loved ones, some are fortunate enough to find more than their expectations. People with poor relationships are more likely to suffer from depression, and loneliness is powerful enough to weaken our immune system. … Their blood pressure rises, and they suffer emotionally. That affects your body. There is also a link between physical and mental health and sexuality. It’s really important in any relationship to understand your significant other’s point of view. It’s not easy to listen, but understanding you both have a perspective and that there is no “right answer” to a conflict is important. Be willing to compromise.

One of the ways to nurture healthy relationships is to practice gratitude. Expressing gratitude towards a partner can boost positivity for both parties. Relationships are hard work. You need to invest time in them. Make an effort to spend time together, accept one another, practice forgiveness and allow ourselves to be vulnerable. Sometimes we work so hard to protect ourselves, but opening up to a person is key to developing a deep and intimate relationship.

Depression and anxiety often go hand in hand, so it makes sense that relationships can affect depression in similarly complex ways. On the one hand, some studies have found that long-term relationships and marriage, specifically can ease symptoms in people with a history of depression. On the other hand, fraught relationships have been shown to dramatically increase the risk of clinical depression.

Research shows that strong partnerships can help us avoid illness, adopt healthier habits, and even live longer. On the other hand, troubled relationships tend to breed stress and weaken immunity. Most student don’t know how to balance love and studying. However, there are some young couples that knows how to manage both study and love. This is because for youngsters especially if this are their first experience, falling in love is a new feeling and it can be very overwhelming. It’s a beautiful feeling and I’m not  denying  it. Some would say that once you start getting the gist of love, you will get addicted to it.

so you have to focus as much as possible on a career to make yourself competitive today (because if you’re not doing it, someone else will). If it means working unpaid internships during the day and server jobs in the evening, there is no need to complicate your already non-existent schedule with a relationship. This is the time where young persons  are most free to travel the world and to do such other thing by which society and parents will feel proud.

 Let students be students and not a love machine. You should concentrate with studying, hangout with friends, playing game, etc. There are countless of things that you can do when you are still a student. Don’t waste your youth being tide to commitment with a partner. That can wait, you can have that when you’re all grown up. For now, enjoy being kids because trust me, once you’re all grown up, you’re definitely gonna miss being a kid. Let time flows the way it should be and when the time is right you will find someone special that will sweep you off your feet. 

Allowing yourself to feel your feelings is one of the most empowering things you can do to improve your relationship with yourself! And when you appreciate and honor yourself, you are much more equipped to make wise choices about your relationships.

The next time you are in front of a mirror, I encourage you to look into your eyes and say: “I believe in myself. Even though I’m in a lot of pain, I allow myself to feel it because I know my feelings matter. I know I can free this pain by honoring it instead of avoiding it. Always remember that you have the strength and ability to turn your painful patterns into powerful perceptions…and that your life will get better and better when you do. Stay tuned for more mindful messages. Giving you helpful tips and exercises to improve the quality of your life and relationships.

Sajad Farooq Rather


Kashmir University

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