The True Happiness


In today's world, people seem to be fed up with their lives. No one is at peace. Everyone appears as a shattered soul. Today smiling has become a mere exercising of the cheek muscles. In reality no one seems to be truly happy.

In the present world, weare all living meaningless lives because we fail to find the real essence of life.We fail to steal the show on the stage of the world. If we observe carefully, every single one of us leads the same mundane and quite predictable lives. We are born, join a school at 3 where we spend the next 10-15 years of our lives hating what we are taught. Then after we finish our high school, we are further dragged down by the professional colleges and universities we join, either by choice or by compulsion. Then comes the struggle for a job and the same job that we were excited to start at first, becomes the reason of our unhappiness as days pass but we continue doing it because it helps us put food on our table. Slowly wrinkles begin to appear on our face and before we know it, we are aching and groaning due to old age. Then one fine day, we simplycease to exist without doing our part in this world or without leaving a mark on the pages of history. Truthfully speaking, we spent our entire lives looking for new ways to earn money because we feel money is our key to happiness. Yet when we observe people who have accumulated enormous wealth, we don't necessarily find them happy or at peace. The more people have, the more they want. When we look for success, pleasure and possessions, we turn these into idols.Of coursewe may have moments of exhilaration, an illusory sense of satisfaction but ultimately we all become slaves of greed.

The search for happiness is shared by the people of all times and all ages. Our hearts are always restless, always searching for a treasure which can satisfy our thirst for the infinite. When we are small kids, we find happiness in simple things like playing games with our friends or eating candy or simply chasing chickens and birds. But when we grow up, we see everything myopically. The inner compass which guides us in our quest for happiness loses its point of reference and the attraction of power, wealth, possessions, and a desire for pleasure at all costs leads us right into the abyss of sorrow and anguish. Our hearts get attached to false treasures and slowly wither away. We seek happiness in money and confuse happiness with a sofa. We all think that in order to be happy, all we need is a good sofa. A sofa that is too comfortable. A sofa with a built-in massage unit to put us to sleep. A sofa that promises us hours of comfort so we can escape to the virtual world of videogames, social networks and TV screens. A sofa that keeps us safe from any kind of pain and fear.  A sofa that allows us to stay home without needing to work or worry about anything. A sofa we call our sofa of happiness. Thissofa, however turns out to be the most harmful and insidious form of paralysis since little by little, without even realizing it, we start to grow dull and lethargic while others who are more alert than we are, but not necessarily better, decide our future for us. Ironically, for many people, it is much easier and convenient to be dull and lethargic than try to follow their dreams and acknowledge the restlessness present in the human heart.However, we don’t come into this world to be in a permanent vegetative state, to take it easy, to make our lives a comfortable sofa to fall asleep on. We come for a reason. We come into this world to leave a mark. When we opt for ease and convenience and confuse happiness to consumption and money, we end up paying a heavy price for it. We end up losing our freedom.

Today, we live in a world where self-concern reigns supreme. Today’s world encourages people not to bond with anything or anyone. It dissuades them from trusting anyone, even themselves. Today consumerism determines what is important. It consumes relationships, friendships, peace, faith, harmony. It consumes our very lives. A consumption which does not favor bonding, a consumption which has little to do with human relationships leaves behind it, a trail of unhappiness. Social bonds, nowadays, are a mere means to satisfy our social needs. Your family, your neighbour, your friend and their needs are no longer important.Today’s life makes it easier to concentrate on what divides us rather than focus on what brings us together. We are made to believe than building walls are easier than building bridges. We are taught to hold on to our anger instead of forgiveness. This is why the world of today is in chaos and everyone is so dissatisfied and unhappy.The world of today needsoptimists. Life is always beautiful when we choose to live it fully, when we choose to leave a mark. We must have the courage to swim against the tide, the courage to be truly happy. We must have the courage to say no to an ephemeral, superficial and a throwaway culture.A culture that assumes that we are incapable of taking on responsibility and facing the great challenges of life.

In an age when we are constantly being enticed by vain and empty illusions of happiness, we risk settling for less and thinking small when it comes to the meaning of life. There is a need to think big and open our hearts. We need to learn to get detached from possessiveness, from the idolatry of money and lavish spending. We need to remind ourselves that people’s value is not measured by their possessions. A poor person, a person lacking material possessions is as much human as a billionaire. Faced with both old and new forms of poverty, unemployment, population explosion and addictions of various kinds, we have a duty to be alert and thoughtful. A duty to avoid the temptation to remain indifferent. We have to remember all those who feel unloved, who have no hope for the future and who have given up on life out of discouragement, disappointment or fear. We have to learn to be on the side and not just indulge in rhetoric about the poor. Let us go out to meet them, look into their eyes and listen to them. Let us make them feel loved and cared. Let us show them that there is still beauty left in this world. To live without faith, to have no heritage to uphold, to fail to struggle constantly, to fail to defend the truth is not living. It is scraping by. Together we must take up the challenge to take the path of fraternity, to build human bridges by reaching out to one another.  We need to reject and abandon the path of division, hatred and emptiness. We need to think about others before thinking about ourselves. We need to make this world a place where the weakest are neither forgotten nor neglected, but visited, remembered and cared for as brothers and sisters. 'To serve humanity' should be the ultimate purpose of our life for in this we can find the real happiness, the happiness we spend our entire lives looking for.




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