Let the marriage ceremonies be sober for the common benefit of society
Wonderful snow clad mountains, beautiful picturesque scenery, splendid waterfalls, spectacular greenery and the groovy meadows, are not only the ones that make the valley of Kashmir magnificent, but, also its unique culture and traditions leave no stone unturned to make it a dazzling gem in the crown. Culture and traditions holds an immense importance in any civilization. The rise and fall of any nation depends on how well its people do justice with it. The past few years have witnessed undesirable and unsolicited changes in the living pattern of people. There has been a drastic shift in the philosophy of people who seem to have accepted those things which warranted a completely different viewpoint than that of today. In the run towards modernisation, the relevance of culture and traditions seems to have been forgotten, which is not only a worrying trend, but also highlights the need and urgency that is required to be shown in order to save ourselves from getting astray. Culture and traditions by their basic nature are simple and friendly. But when we alter or modify them to suit our own self-seeking and self-interested desires, they tend to get adverse, thereby making it difficult for all to follow. Humans on the self centred and self profiteering note have devised ways of their own, that not only contradicts with what is the most optimal way but, also create problems for the fellow beings. People who respect the rituals and go by what is acceptable or genuine while avoiding any unwanted or superfluous activities are among the ones who are able to extract the benefits from what our ancestors have left for us in the shape of traditions.
Unfortunately, today our society stands witness to a lot number of instances where the significance and importance of culture and traditions means nothing to anyone. The present day marriages are a clear example of such occasions which highlight as to what extent the tradition of marriage has changed from past to the present and puts one in a worry state as to what might be the future if still the sense of moral enlightment does not develop in us. In the race of showmanship, some humans have forgotten that there is other class of human beings in the society who could not afford to offer such delicacies and servings which others may. It is astonishing to think as to why this pious ceremony is made an event to show-off ones wealth and not celebrated according to its sanctity!!! What is the need to be extravagant? Shall money bring out the happiness for the couple? How bizarre!!! It is ironical to see how people have changed this pious celebration into an event to display their riches and capital. Why this sense of moral degradation has taken place that has not only made it difficult to carry out these virtuous occasions but has also left many others at par from getting their loved ones married? What would be the future of such a society where marriages mean spending a great deal of money without being looked upon on how the other classes of the society are going to suffer from this shameful act? Although the present day society possesses intellectually blessed people, but still then the courage to stand against it and making masses aware about this unacceptable practice is still missing. Instead of condemning this extravagance, we all are becoming silent partners to this large scale waste and are in a way encouraging this malpractice in place of discouraging and depressing it. Our sense of realization seems to have died down which is preventing us from differentiating between the right and wrong practices. Condemning the extravagance on marriages is needed to save our society from being turned into a bog that would engulf its moral and ethical standards leaving it a no better place to live in. For this purpose religious scholars need to make people aware about the sacredness of the marriages and the way they should celebrate them, without hurting the sentiments of others.
We humans need to live in close association with each other not only for the benefit of ourselves but for the benefit of society as a whole. If the existing trend of modifying the culture and traditions is allowed to go as we are seeing in case of marriages, then it is going to lead us to troubled times where none will be benefited by it. Rather a sense of insecureness that has started to prevail in our minds would be common. Culture and traditions are for the common good of the society and should be respected not disgraced. If any modification or adjustment is to be done, its significance on other people should be kept in mind before reaching to any course of action. After all we humans could survive only if we live in close relationship with each other and care for others. Marriage, a gateway of eternal relationship should be respected and celebrated with humility. There stands no point to be extravagant on marriages rather if people start to concentrate on their relationships and make efforts to flourish them, it would be worthwhile. Otherwise money changes hands.
The author, from Ghaziabad Anchidora Anantnag, is a B. Tech- MBA, from Lovely Professional University, Punjab.
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