Extravagance, Ostentation Behind Late Wedlocks

Srinagar: In the first of its kind in Kashmir, a 2-day interactive workshop, “The Serene Bond” about marriage and its ethics was held Saturday at Ibn Khaldun Auditorium, University of Kashmir. Held in the backdrop of the on-going marriage season in the valley, the workshop is an innovative idea of Inspire Me — a group of seven students, six from International Islamic University Malaysia, and one from University of Nottingham. “The workshop was held after assessing the situation about marriages in Kashmir and the problems related to it,” author and founder of Inspire Me, Yaqeen-ul Haq Ahmad Sikander, said. Explaining the dangers of the current trend in Kashmiri marriages, he said, “Un-Islamic practices in marriages like extravagance and ostentation, has given rise to late marriages.” He said the number of divorces in the valley was on the rise. “These issues can be resolved only when we follow the teachings of Islam.

There is hardly any pre-marital guidance and counseling as per the Islamic Sharia, and as result married couples hardly know their responsibilities,” said Sikander. Breaking the taboos, young boys and girls present at the workshop discussed issues of dating, romance and love. Most participants agreed that concept of dating was on the rise and it had appalling consequences on the moral fabric of the society. “Love is not forbidden in Islam but the way Western media portrays it is highly unacceptable in the Islamic paradigm,” said Muhamad Saud, one of the speakers. “Youngsters often want to know where their girlfriends or boyfriends are, want to have passwords to access each other’s emails or phone, send or to send threatening texts and making derogatory comments on Facebook ,” said one of the participants.

Quoting from reports, Sikander said, “In Kreeri area of Baramulla district alone, seven youth attempted suicide between August 21 and 23, of whom four died in the past four days. Shockingly, in all four cases, failed love affair reportedly prompted the extreme step”. “You cannot maintain silence when it comes to imparting sex education. Somebody has to talk about it and you need to create awareness to guide the young lot,” said programme manager for the event, Mubashir Wani. In Malaysia, he said, it was important to have “marriage counseling” before getting married. Observer News Service

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